Here's a nice summary of different parenting styles:
The authoritarian style is strict and dictatorial, with no dialog between parent & child.
The permissive or indulgent style is lenient, with little discipline or rules.
The authoritative style is balanced: there are clear rules, clear boundaries, which are consistently enforced, but lots of empathy, understanding, dialog, and flexibility. Strong consideration is given to the child's point of view.
I think these different styles could be applied to one's own individual mind -- I encourage aiming for a healthy, balanced, authoritative style.
Authoritarian styles will be oppressive, and foster resentment, unhappiness, anger, and rebellion within oneself (sometimes an "underground" rebellion manifesting itself as depressive self- harm).
Permissive styles could feel liberating, but could lead to an experience of drifting, with a lack of direction, without a feeling of growing or developing one's potential.
An authoritative style would lead to a healthy balance between freedom and self-discipline, allowing for growth, challenge, and happiness. It could also tame the wilder forces within your mind, not by suppressing them, but by hearing them and guiding them in a well-boundaried, safe context.
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