Indistractable, by Nir Eyal, is an instruction manual, teaching us how to make healthy choices with our attention and activities, in the midst of the many addictive distractions of the internet age.
It is a good book, but most of its content could be acquired through a brief surfing of the net.
Eyal wrote another book in 2014 called Hooked: How to Build Habit-Forming Products. Ironically, this earlier book uses his knowledge of persuasion and behavioural psychology to foster the very addictive distractions that Indistractable tries to rescue us from. In some ways I guess we could compare that to the management of a casino organizing its own addiction treatment program for customers.
The book itself is well-written, and its format is an example of how to keep a reader engaged: the chapters are short, the language is simple and clear, and the main points are summarized at the end of each chapter, then once again at the end of the book. There is even material provided to get started on a CBT-style program to become "indistractable." The "indistractable" language is based, I'm sure, on a marketing idea of encouraging an identity-based slogan as a motivational tool. If one were to wear a t-shirt with the "indistractable" logo it might help motivationally.
The book itself is a product, and I suspect that it will lead to profits for the author.
Yet, the ideas contained within are useful, and worth knowing about. Aside from simple behavioural techniques (e.g. decluttering your home screen, scheduling in advance, etc.) there is appropriate attention given to identifying the emotions accompanying distracted behaviour, and to identifying core values (e.g. of being a good parent or a good friend) as a primary motivating force to choose relationships or meaningful work rather than surfing Twitter, playing a distracting video game, or having a text conversation.
This is another example of how therapists or physicians can learn important lessons from people who have expertise in marketing. It often requires an inspiring persuasive message to help someone who is struggling with depression, anxiety, addictions, or other problems to make positive, sustained engagements with meaningful life change.
a discussion about psychiatry, mental illness, emotional problems, and things that help
Monday, October 7, 2019
Saturday, September 21, 2019
Review: "The Coddling of the American Mind" by Lukianoff and Haidt
The Coddling of the American Mind: This is another book I recommend as an important, timely review of contemporary issues relating to modern culture, parenting, free speech, and university education.
I respect what I think Haidt is trying to do, as a persistent theme in his career: to be a peacemaker, to encourage intelligent, harmonious, respectful dialogue among people with different viewpoints or political leanings, and to reduce or mend hostile polarization. This theme comes across once again in this book. I could not support this goal more strongly. Haidt is probably one of the few psychologists who would have a respectful audience among people right across the political spectrum.
But there are many areas where I disagree.
Safetyism -- A Culture of Fragility
The initial section discusses how in a well-meaning quest for "safety" we can create a culture in which people are weaker, less capable, and more fragile. For example, if we are so afraid of a child falling down and getting hurt, we might not allow bike riding, climbing, gymnastics, etc. But this lack of exposure to challenging, slightly risky activity would lead to a failure for the child to develop normal physical skills, and might also lead to the child learning to fear and avoid challenges, rather than to face them and master them.
Ironically, this would sabotage the goal of improving safety.
Intellectually, according to the authors, if we teach fear, avoidance, or suppression of disagreeable ideas and of the people who express them, it may likewise lead to a failure to develop normal resilience or problem solving, and may foment unnecessary, destructive societal conflict.
So the authors are saying that just as we must allow children to try riding bikes or climbing, even though there is a risk of falling, we must encourage a cultivation of resilience and respect when exposed to disparate ideas, including those which offend us.
Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as an approach to modern life
The authors make frequent mention of cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) ideas, as a model for approaching these social and political issues. The principles of CBT call for us to study our thoughts, assess them for possible distortions, be open to challenge them and test them behaviourally, and also to face our fears.
Extreme Examples, Case Studies
They describe a variety of unsettling stories of extreme cases, where so-called "safetyism" led to excessive negative consequences for scholars, for free speech, even for university culture in general. The authors argue that these conditions cause intellectual freedom to be dampened, replaced by an atmosphere in which some professors may be reluctant to speak their minds or share their research, for fear of causing offense and a resulting protest or scandal.
A decline in teen and young adult mental health?
The authors move on to describe their theory that teen and young adult mental health is declining, and that a combination of "safetyism," overprotective parenting and internet use (especially social media) are responsible. One of their prescriptions for this (which they advise strongly near the end) is for parents to encourage so-called "free play" with a restriction of internet or smart phone use for children.
Misgivings
Here are some of my misgivings:
As is often the case, one can make a general prescription for a cultural change based on knowledge or experience with a limited group (sometimes a group of just one, when we recommend to everybody what worked for us individually). Haidt is a respected, famous academic leader who has a fair bit of influence. His book is marketed extensively, as I suspect are the public lectures across the world. It would be consistent with one of the better themes of this book to welcome some balanced and thorough debate about it. One insight from social psychology is that once a person has publicly announced a position or opinion (especially in the form of a well-selling book) they are more likely to be biased in favour of this position, despite contrary evidence.
It may well be true that cultivating intellectual resilience through exposure to disparate intellectual ideas, exposure to risk, free play, etc. are in general good things, which would be reasonable public health measures or aspects of a healthy policy about parenting or education. But such cultivation may require a different approach for different people, just as cognitive-behavioural therapy would need to be approached differently depending on where the individual person is at.
In CBT, as with any therapy, the process cannot be pushed if the person does not consent to it. Exposure therapy (e.g. exposure to fears, challenging safety behaviours) cannot occur without informed consent, otherwise it would often be traumatic and counterproductive. And exposure usually needs to occur in a controlled, gradual manner, which is quite different from the way stress occurs in the environment (such stress outside of a therapy room is usually random and uncontrolled). And not every mental health problem is amenable to exposure therapy; in some cases exposure makes things worse. Humans are not always "antifragile."
One of the reasons why I think there is more stress about conflictual issues on university campuses is not because the students are less resilient at all. I think it is because universities in general have become more accepting and accommodating to individuals whose concerns would have been more dismissed and marginalized in previous years and decades.
It is possible now to attend university while having more serious mental health problems, and most modern universities are more accommodating than they were in the past.
There are also movements for previously marginalized groups to speak out, and insist on their rights. Such insistence, as we see from all previous civil rights advances through the ages, often does not happen without social stress and conflict.
So actually I think students are at least equally, if not even more, resilient, courageous, and brave than they were in the past. They are not merely "coddled."
It is not clear to me that there is a large change in rates of mental illness, over a long span of time. There may be, but it is debatable. There can be transient ups and downs over the span of years or decades. Causes for these changes are probably complex, regionally variable, and multifactorial. Economic factors, such as poverty, are probably very important and underappreciated. Different rates may be due to different rates of reporting, more awareness in the population, different trends or fashions of diagnosis, etc.
And if there is a change in the prevalence of mental illness, it is by no means clear to me that internet or social media use is responsible (there are some important recent studies disputing the impact of the internet on youth mental health). There are good alternative viewpoints--here's a link to one good article: * Przybylski, an Oxford researcher, has published a recent study worth reading on this subject: **
It is certainly not clear that parental "coddling" is responsible for changes in teen or young adult mental health. There is evidence on both sides of this. Common sense would dictate that, just as with any other human behaviour, we should be careful with our habits, our parenting, and with how children are spending their time.
I do more strongly agree about one of the authors' points about modern parenting: it is not healthy for children to be overscheduled, to lack free time, and to be forced at a young age to start academic preparations for admission to a prestigious university. Childhood should be a time of relationship development, play, and freedom. However, some individual children may greatly enjoy and appreciate extra academic focus instead of more "free play" -- I know I was one of those children myself.
About "coddling." The authors include this word in the title of their book. It is meant as a pejorative of course. I don't like it. "Caudle" is a thick, sweet, warm drink which is meant to be digested easily or enjoyed by someone who is unwell. The authors use the word to mean that we are overprotective of others, including our own children, to the point that we are causing harm, as though feeding "caudle" to people who aren't ill.
I agree that such overprotection can occur. But many children actually do need more protection and parental supervision. "Caudle" is often useful and good. Different kids develop at different rates. Some individuals, for various reasons, never attain, and are unable to attain, the full set of skills they need (physically, emotionally, or socially) to function independently, despite maximal "CBT." Such individuals have often been neglected, left behind, and excluded by the majority. One cannot just make a blanket prescription to "let the kids play more." As a specific example, various types of learning disorders and developmental variants (such as autism-spectrum phenomena) are permanent, and they cannot be resolved simply by pushing the students to face their fears; remedial help and accommodation are needed (I guess we could call this "coddling"). Social anxiety disorders, which are extremely common, should be approached using CBT techniques, but it is unlikely that any therapy can "cure" social anxiety -- we also need to accommodate ("coddle") and value shyness, rather than just try to "treat" it. ***
"Safetyism" should not be criticized too much. Accidents and injuries are among the most common causes of death and permanent disability for children and young adults. Basic improvements to safety are an obvious, reasonable societal advance. People complaining about "coddling" as an impediment to healthy development might criticize safety features at playgrounds, or of signs recommending safe practices or rules for games. I don't think these things deserve criticism. Safety features and play instructions can be helpful for many people. For those of us who don't want or need these safety features, we can just ignore or defy them, unless they are incorporated into law (such as regarding seat belt or helmet use).
With respect to parenting, the most common situation I see in my clinical practice is of people who have not been "coddled" too much, but who have been neglected or mistreated by their parents. This has nothing to do with how much "free play" has occurred.
A common cause of such neglect is of a modern lifestyle where parents are too busy or disconnected to play with their children. The causes for this phenomenon include cultural trends in work and parenting; economic stress; and mental illness. Most children can accommodate to this, and even thrive, but some cannot. Some children would find endless hours of free play to be a torment. It need not be considered some kind of parenting triumph to allow your child to walk to school alone at an early age. (I do not consider walking alone to be risky--the authors are correct in observing that risks of abductions, etc. are extremely low, and should not rationally lead to walking children to school just for their physical safety.) But physical safety is not the point. Enjoying time and relationship with your child is the point! If you have the opportunity to play with your child, or walk him or her to school, this is not some kind of harmful "coddling"! It is one of the joys of life, leading to memories that both of you will savour for the rest of your lives. And some children may need to be walked to school, to help them negotiate their anxiety or build their social strengths alongside a trusted adult. This is ok too, and is not "coddling" except in the best sense of the word.
I in general support the authors' recommendations for being open to hearing and respecting opposing points of view, as opposed to shutting down opposing voices using angry protest. However, perhaps this recommendation deserves some questioning as well. For example, if one has signed up to learn genetics, and if there is a space and time for a visiting lecturer once per week, I think most would consider it bothersome to reserve this precious lecture time and student attention on entertaining speakers who deny the existence of genes or DNA. Free speech may not require that every point of view should have equal access to a reputable and influential public forum. Of course, this would lead to a question of who has the power to decide who gets access to this forum. A default answer would be to say that in a democracy, it is the people who would decide, hopefully guided by the wisdom of experts. But sometimes the experts could be wrong. Or sometimes population trends could be unreasonable. In these cases, I do agree very much with the authors in affirming a principle of calm, reasonable openness to dissent to be enshrined as a guiding principle, as it is in many nations' constitutions. And it is also reasonable for everyone in the population to be acquainted with rational techniques for self-questioning, such as CBT.
I actually do find that CBT ideas are so prevalent now, that many college students are aware of the theory already. Young people are intelligent and well-informed, for the most part.
My own recommendations:
First of all, I question my right to make any sort of recommendation. I think it is better to be a little more humble and admit that there is quite a bit of uncertainty about all of these things.
For parenting, I think different children have different needs. For some it is ok or necessary to "coddle." For others, it is best to encourage a lot more "free play." For many kids it probably doesn't make a whole lot of difference either way, and there could be leeway to simply choose the strategy that is possible for you, and that you and the kids enjoy the most. I am a big fan of spending a lot of time with one's children, to cultivate a close relationship, to build strong, positive, happy memories. Such memories are, in my opinion, strongly protective of lifelong mental health, and one of the most powerful sources of resilience that experience can offer (other sources of resilience are inherited, and have nothing to do with parenting). They are also very satisfying for a parent, and probably are associated with healthier, happier aging. In many cases, though, the memories have nothing at all to do with mental health per se. They are just memories of time together. In general, I prefer to have them rather than not.
I respect what I think Haidt is trying to do, as a persistent theme in his career: to be a peacemaker, to encourage intelligent, harmonious, respectful dialogue among people with different viewpoints or political leanings, and to reduce or mend hostile polarization. This theme comes across once again in this book. I could not support this goal more strongly. Haidt is probably one of the few psychologists who would have a respectful audience among people right across the political spectrum.
But there are many areas where I disagree.
Safetyism -- A Culture of Fragility
The initial section discusses how in a well-meaning quest for "safety" we can create a culture in which people are weaker, less capable, and more fragile. For example, if we are so afraid of a child falling down and getting hurt, we might not allow bike riding, climbing, gymnastics, etc. But this lack of exposure to challenging, slightly risky activity would lead to a failure for the child to develop normal physical skills, and might also lead to the child learning to fear and avoid challenges, rather than to face them and master them.
Ironically, this would sabotage the goal of improving safety.
Intellectually, according to the authors, if we teach fear, avoidance, or suppression of disagreeable ideas and of the people who express them, it may likewise lead to a failure to develop normal resilience or problem solving, and may foment unnecessary, destructive societal conflict.
So the authors are saying that just as we must allow children to try riding bikes or climbing, even though there is a risk of falling, we must encourage a cultivation of resilience and respect when exposed to disparate ideas, including those which offend us.
Cognitive-Behavioural Therapy (CBT) as an approach to modern life
The authors make frequent mention of cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT) ideas, as a model for approaching these social and political issues. The principles of CBT call for us to study our thoughts, assess them for possible distortions, be open to challenge them and test them behaviourally, and also to face our fears.
Extreme Examples, Case Studies
They describe a variety of unsettling stories of extreme cases, where so-called "safetyism" led to excessive negative consequences for scholars, for free speech, even for university culture in general. The authors argue that these conditions cause intellectual freedom to be dampened, replaced by an atmosphere in which some professors may be reluctant to speak their minds or share their research, for fear of causing offense and a resulting protest or scandal.
A decline in teen and young adult mental health?
The authors move on to describe their theory that teen and young adult mental health is declining, and that a combination of "safetyism," overprotective parenting and internet use (especially social media) are responsible. One of their prescriptions for this (which they advise strongly near the end) is for parents to encourage so-called "free play" with a restriction of internet or smart phone use for children.
Misgivings
Here are some of my misgivings:
As is often the case, one can make a general prescription for a cultural change based on knowledge or experience with a limited group (sometimes a group of just one, when we recommend to everybody what worked for us individually). Haidt is a respected, famous academic leader who has a fair bit of influence. His book is marketed extensively, as I suspect are the public lectures across the world. It would be consistent with one of the better themes of this book to welcome some balanced and thorough debate about it. One insight from social psychology is that once a person has publicly announced a position or opinion (especially in the form of a well-selling book) they are more likely to be biased in favour of this position, despite contrary evidence.
It may well be true that cultivating intellectual resilience through exposure to disparate intellectual ideas, exposure to risk, free play, etc. are in general good things, which would be reasonable public health measures or aspects of a healthy policy about parenting or education. But such cultivation may require a different approach for different people, just as cognitive-behavioural therapy would need to be approached differently depending on where the individual person is at.
In CBT, as with any therapy, the process cannot be pushed if the person does not consent to it. Exposure therapy (e.g. exposure to fears, challenging safety behaviours) cannot occur without informed consent, otherwise it would often be traumatic and counterproductive. And exposure usually needs to occur in a controlled, gradual manner, which is quite different from the way stress occurs in the environment (such stress outside of a therapy room is usually random and uncontrolled). And not every mental health problem is amenable to exposure therapy; in some cases exposure makes things worse. Humans are not always "antifragile."
One of the reasons why I think there is more stress about conflictual issues on university campuses is not because the students are less resilient at all. I think it is because universities in general have become more accepting and accommodating to individuals whose concerns would have been more dismissed and marginalized in previous years and decades.
It is possible now to attend university while having more serious mental health problems, and most modern universities are more accommodating than they were in the past.
There are also movements for previously marginalized groups to speak out, and insist on their rights. Such insistence, as we see from all previous civil rights advances through the ages, often does not happen without social stress and conflict.
So actually I think students are at least equally, if not even more, resilient, courageous, and brave than they were in the past. They are not merely "coddled."
It is not clear to me that there is a large change in rates of mental illness, over a long span of time. There may be, but it is debatable. There can be transient ups and downs over the span of years or decades. Causes for these changes are probably complex, regionally variable, and multifactorial. Economic factors, such as poverty, are probably very important and underappreciated. Different rates may be due to different rates of reporting, more awareness in the population, different trends or fashions of diagnosis, etc.
And if there is a change in the prevalence of mental illness, it is by no means clear to me that internet or social media use is responsible (there are some important recent studies disputing the impact of the internet on youth mental health). There are good alternative viewpoints--here's a link to one good article: * Przybylski, an Oxford researcher, has published a recent study worth reading on this subject: **
It is certainly not clear that parental "coddling" is responsible for changes in teen or young adult mental health. There is evidence on both sides of this. Common sense would dictate that, just as with any other human behaviour, we should be careful with our habits, our parenting, and with how children are spending their time.
I do more strongly agree about one of the authors' points about modern parenting: it is not healthy for children to be overscheduled, to lack free time, and to be forced at a young age to start academic preparations for admission to a prestigious university. Childhood should be a time of relationship development, play, and freedom. However, some individual children may greatly enjoy and appreciate extra academic focus instead of more "free play" -- I know I was one of those children myself.
About "coddling." The authors include this word in the title of their book. It is meant as a pejorative of course. I don't like it. "Caudle" is a thick, sweet, warm drink which is meant to be digested easily or enjoyed by someone who is unwell. The authors use the word to mean that we are overprotective of others, including our own children, to the point that we are causing harm, as though feeding "caudle" to people who aren't ill.
I agree that such overprotection can occur. But many children actually do need more protection and parental supervision. "Caudle" is often useful and good. Different kids develop at different rates. Some individuals, for various reasons, never attain, and are unable to attain, the full set of skills they need (physically, emotionally, or socially) to function independently, despite maximal "CBT." Such individuals have often been neglected, left behind, and excluded by the majority. One cannot just make a blanket prescription to "let the kids play more." As a specific example, various types of learning disorders and developmental variants (such as autism-spectrum phenomena) are permanent, and they cannot be resolved simply by pushing the students to face their fears; remedial help and accommodation are needed (I guess we could call this "coddling"). Social anxiety disorders, which are extremely common, should be approached using CBT techniques, but it is unlikely that any therapy can "cure" social anxiety -- we also need to accommodate ("coddle") and value shyness, rather than just try to "treat" it. ***
"Safetyism" should not be criticized too much. Accidents and injuries are among the most common causes of death and permanent disability for children and young adults. Basic improvements to safety are an obvious, reasonable societal advance. People complaining about "coddling" as an impediment to healthy development might criticize safety features at playgrounds, or of signs recommending safe practices or rules for games. I don't think these things deserve criticism. Safety features and play instructions can be helpful for many people. For those of us who don't want or need these safety features, we can just ignore or defy them, unless they are incorporated into law (such as regarding seat belt or helmet use).
With respect to parenting, the most common situation I see in my clinical practice is of people who have not been "coddled" too much, but who have been neglected or mistreated by their parents. This has nothing to do with how much "free play" has occurred.
A common cause of such neglect is of a modern lifestyle where parents are too busy or disconnected to play with their children. The causes for this phenomenon include cultural trends in work and parenting; economic stress; and mental illness. Most children can accommodate to this, and even thrive, but some cannot. Some children would find endless hours of free play to be a torment. It need not be considered some kind of parenting triumph to allow your child to walk to school alone at an early age. (I do not consider walking alone to be risky--the authors are correct in observing that risks of abductions, etc. are extremely low, and should not rationally lead to walking children to school just for their physical safety.) But physical safety is not the point. Enjoying time and relationship with your child is the point! If you have the opportunity to play with your child, or walk him or her to school, this is not some kind of harmful "coddling"! It is one of the joys of life, leading to memories that both of you will savour for the rest of your lives. And some children may need to be walked to school, to help them negotiate their anxiety or build their social strengths alongside a trusted adult. This is ok too, and is not "coddling" except in the best sense of the word.
I in general support the authors' recommendations for being open to hearing and respecting opposing points of view, as opposed to shutting down opposing voices using angry protest. However, perhaps this recommendation deserves some questioning as well. For example, if one has signed up to learn genetics, and if there is a space and time for a visiting lecturer once per week, I think most would consider it bothersome to reserve this precious lecture time and student attention on entertaining speakers who deny the existence of genes or DNA. Free speech may not require that every point of view should have equal access to a reputable and influential public forum. Of course, this would lead to a question of who has the power to decide who gets access to this forum. A default answer would be to say that in a democracy, it is the people who would decide, hopefully guided by the wisdom of experts. But sometimes the experts could be wrong. Or sometimes population trends could be unreasonable. In these cases, I do agree very much with the authors in affirming a principle of calm, reasonable openness to dissent to be enshrined as a guiding principle, as it is in many nations' constitutions. And it is also reasonable for everyone in the population to be acquainted with rational techniques for self-questioning, such as CBT.
I actually do find that CBT ideas are so prevalent now, that many college students are aware of the theory already. Young people are intelligent and well-informed, for the most part.
My own recommendations:
First of all, I question my right to make any sort of recommendation. I think it is better to be a little more humble and admit that there is quite a bit of uncertainty about all of these things.
For parenting, I think different children have different needs. For some it is ok or necessary to "coddle." For others, it is best to encourage a lot more "free play." For many kids it probably doesn't make a whole lot of difference either way, and there could be leeway to simply choose the strategy that is possible for you, and that you and the kids enjoy the most. I am a big fan of spending a lot of time with one's children, to cultivate a close relationship, to build strong, positive, happy memories. Such memories are, in my opinion, strongly protective of lifelong mental health, and one of the most powerful sources of resilience that experience can offer (other sources of resilience are inherited, and have nothing to do with parenting). They are also very satisfying for a parent, and probably are associated with healthier, happier aging. In many cases, though, the memories have nothing at all to do with mental health per se. They are just memories of time together. In general, I prefer to have them rather than not.
Sunday, June 9, 2019
Review: "The Righteous Mind" by Jonathan Haidt
I recommend this book.
In The Righteous Mind, Jonathan Haidt shows that different people have different foundations which underlie their moral judgments or beliefs.
On the "left," the foundations of fairness and charity are more prominent. On the "right," the foundations of loyalty and "purity" are more prominent.
These styles or foundations may be propagated in culture or family upbringing, but also are partly influenced by heredity (genes). In the middle part of the book, Haidt argues that each of these moral foundations can convey improved survival or natural selective advantage to whole groups. For example, a group which values loyalty very strongly as a moral foundation is more like to be cohesive, and therefore more resilient to various stresses, including warfare or internal discord.
Haidt concludes his book with a strong message that we should empathize with people or groups which have different moral foundations, rather than simply fight with them or view them as enemies. He espouses the goal of befriending opponents, including those who have different political or religious beliefs or moral foundations. Such friendship would then reduce extremes of polarization and conflict, and allow groups to move forward more peacefully.
I respect his thesis very much, of cultivating understanding and empathy for people or groups which have different moral, religious, or political beliefs than one's own. In a psychotherapy environment, such empathy is required in order for progress to occur, even when the therapist may object strongly to aspects of the patient's behaviour.
But I have some criticisms of Haidt's thesis:
Haidt seems to disparage the importance of reason or rationality. In a type of "straw man" argument, he suggests that "reason" without other moral foundations such as loyalty, is insufficient or even pathological. He uses a metaphor of a person or a mind being like an elephant, a powerful creature guided by instincts and passions, with the "rider" of the elephant being our "reason" or logical faculties. The "rider" is described as a recent evolutionary development, intended to serve the elephant, rather than rule over it.
He anticipates in the book that some people will disagree with him on this. I certainly do. I do not disagree that the development of sophisticated reason or rationality is a recent development in evolutionary history, that it indeed did develop in service to the "elephant," and that there are strong selective advantages for "non-rational" qualities, which remain prevalent in nature. But the evolutionary presence of traits is not evidence of their high moral value.
Modern rationality is the foundation of the justice system. Imagine a court system, a scientific lab, a factory producing safety equipment, or a spacecraft agency such as NASA, which would not hold reason as the highest foundation in its decision-making, but instead would consider "loyalty" or "purity" as most important. Such foundations would, and often have, led to disaster.
I realize that some applications of reason may in retrospect prove not so "reasonable" after all. Reason is always fallible, and can be the foundation of huge mistakes--not just technical failures due to mistaken ideas that were apparently well-supported at the time (e.g. the belief in medical remedies such as bloodletting), but also moral catastrophes. But the process of reason requires it to be flexible, to monitor itself for mistakes, to be willing to make corrections when new information arises. This differs from "loyalty" which is by definition resistant to change despite the arrival of new information.
"Loyalty" could be considered a component of "reason" which requires a waiting period before acting on new ideas. It could be like electing a senator for a 6 year term, with other representatives elected for 2 year terms. The senators would be more resistant to rapid or erratic whims of a capricious populace, while the representatives would be poised to act more quickly; the two chambers would ideally lead to an effective equilibrium, sensitive to change, but not impulsively so.
I am not saying that "loyalty" or "purity" are unimportant, but they cannot be viewed as morally equivalent to reason, on some kind of equal footing, such that differences between people can be understood simply as cultural variation.
I was bothered in Haidt's book by his passing disparaging reference to "new atheists" such as Richard Dawkins, more or less dismissing the value of their ideas without acknowledging their wisdom or contribution. There are major problems with these thinkers which warrant fair criticism, but they do deserve respect and attention. This is ironically contrary to Haidt's best conclusion, which is to have some empathy and respect for viewpoints different from one's own.
I am more allied to scholars such as Steven Pinker or Paul Bloom, who are "rationalists" in their approach to psychology and morality. But I have to admit that Jonathan Haidt is an important thinker as well, and deserves respect and attention.
Any author of a book has a tendency to have some inflexibility in their position afterwards, due to several psychological biases. If you have publicly asserted a position, and have become famous for it, you are more likely to maintain it in order to appear consistent, even if there are good arguments against it. There can be some degree of ego involved as well--people don't like to admit that they are wrong. I wish there was a little bit more humility when scholars or experts assert positions on these issues.
I am not an author (except for this modest blog), but I know that I have an ego as well, and I would have a tendency to defend positions that I have asserted, even when they may need to be changed or adapted. I need to watch this tendency in myself, as we all do in ourselves.
In some cases, it may not be possible to have a friendly, empathic dialogue in a setting of conflict, oppression, or injustice. Haidt does not explore this type of scenario adequately. Friendship and empathy are neglected in the management of conflict and polarization, but it is important to acknowledge as well that some of the necessary forces of positive change and justice can be rather more difficult and conflict-ridden.
In The Righteous Mind, Jonathan Haidt shows that different people have different foundations which underlie their moral judgments or beliefs.
On the "left," the foundations of fairness and charity are more prominent. On the "right," the foundations of loyalty and "purity" are more prominent.
These styles or foundations may be propagated in culture or family upbringing, but also are partly influenced by heredity (genes). In the middle part of the book, Haidt argues that each of these moral foundations can convey improved survival or natural selective advantage to whole groups. For example, a group which values loyalty very strongly as a moral foundation is more like to be cohesive, and therefore more resilient to various stresses, including warfare or internal discord.
Haidt concludes his book with a strong message that we should empathize with people or groups which have different moral foundations, rather than simply fight with them or view them as enemies. He espouses the goal of befriending opponents, including those who have different political or religious beliefs or moral foundations. Such friendship would then reduce extremes of polarization and conflict, and allow groups to move forward more peacefully.
I respect his thesis very much, of cultivating understanding and empathy for people or groups which have different moral, religious, or political beliefs than one's own. In a psychotherapy environment, such empathy is required in order for progress to occur, even when the therapist may object strongly to aspects of the patient's behaviour.
But I have some criticisms of Haidt's thesis:
Haidt seems to disparage the importance of reason or rationality. In a type of "straw man" argument, he suggests that "reason" without other moral foundations such as loyalty, is insufficient or even pathological. He uses a metaphor of a person or a mind being like an elephant, a powerful creature guided by instincts and passions, with the "rider" of the elephant being our "reason" or logical faculties. The "rider" is described as a recent evolutionary development, intended to serve the elephant, rather than rule over it.
He anticipates in the book that some people will disagree with him on this. I certainly do. I do not disagree that the development of sophisticated reason or rationality is a recent development in evolutionary history, that it indeed did develop in service to the "elephant," and that there are strong selective advantages for "non-rational" qualities, which remain prevalent in nature. But the evolutionary presence of traits is not evidence of their high moral value.
Modern rationality is the foundation of the justice system. Imagine a court system, a scientific lab, a factory producing safety equipment, or a spacecraft agency such as NASA, which would not hold reason as the highest foundation in its decision-making, but instead would consider "loyalty" or "purity" as most important. Such foundations would, and often have, led to disaster.
I realize that some applications of reason may in retrospect prove not so "reasonable" after all. Reason is always fallible, and can be the foundation of huge mistakes--not just technical failures due to mistaken ideas that were apparently well-supported at the time (e.g. the belief in medical remedies such as bloodletting), but also moral catastrophes. But the process of reason requires it to be flexible, to monitor itself for mistakes, to be willing to make corrections when new information arises. This differs from "loyalty" which is by definition resistant to change despite the arrival of new information.
"Loyalty" could be considered a component of "reason" which requires a waiting period before acting on new ideas. It could be like electing a senator for a 6 year term, with other representatives elected for 2 year terms. The senators would be more resistant to rapid or erratic whims of a capricious populace, while the representatives would be poised to act more quickly; the two chambers would ideally lead to an effective equilibrium, sensitive to change, but not impulsively so.
I am not saying that "loyalty" or "purity" are unimportant, but they cannot be viewed as morally equivalent to reason, on some kind of equal footing, such that differences between people can be understood simply as cultural variation.
I was bothered in Haidt's book by his passing disparaging reference to "new atheists" such as Richard Dawkins, more or less dismissing the value of their ideas without acknowledging their wisdom or contribution. There are major problems with these thinkers which warrant fair criticism, but they do deserve respect and attention. This is ironically contrary to Haidt's best conclusion, which is to have some empathy and respect for viewpoints different from one's own.
I am more allied to scholars such as Steven Pinker or Paul Bloom, who are "rationalists" in their approach to psychology and morality. But I have to admit that Jonathan Haidt is an important thinker as well, and deserves respect and attention.
Any author of a book has a tendency to have some inflexibility in their position afterwards, due to several psychological biases. If you have publicly asserted a position, and have become famous for it, you are more likely to maintain it in order to appear consistent, even if there are good arguments against it. There can be some degree of ego involved as well--people don't like to admit that they are wrong. I wish there was a little bit more humility when scholars or experts assert positions on these issues.
I am not an author (except for this modest blog), but I know that I have an ego as well, and I would have a tendency to defend positions that I have asserted, even when they may need to be changed or adapted. I need to watch this tendency in myself, as we all do in ourselves.
In some cases, it may not be possible to have a friendly, empathic dialogue in a setting of conflict, oppression, or injustice. Haidt does not explore this type of scenario adequately. Friendship and empathy are neglected in the management of conflict and polarization, but it is important to acknowledge as well that some of the necessary forces of positive change and justice can be rather more difficult and conflict-ridden.
The Psychology of Meetings
What does psychology teach us about the components of an effective or positive meeting?
Daniel Kahneman described psychological dynamics in meetings, such that those who contribute first or most vocally tend to bias the discussion excessively.
Quieter members of a group may have important contributions, but they are never heard.
A majority view can tend to prevail. Dissenting positions are often suppressed by peer pressure.
People can be afraid to express themselves, due to fear of consequences.
Many speakers or presenters in meetings are lecturing about information that is already well-known to most or all of the members, therefore this type of lecture is arguably a very inefficient use of everyone's time.
Suppression of dissent or counterargument is the most powerful and morally troubling bias in persuasion and group dynamics.
Overt bias in group dynamics and suppression of dissent can occur in overt ways, such as with an authoritarian meeting style. But there can be subtler mechanisms, such as when a presenter is charming, articulate, humourous, rhetorically skilled, and equipped with attractive visuals. Good food probably helps as well. We all enjoy such presentations, but it is important not to let our enjoyment cause us to shut down our critical thinking. Otherwise, a presentation can be more like a marketing campaign, a revival meeting, or a political rally.
One tactic to reduce this effect can be to ask members to offer their opinions or questions, anonymously if necessary, before the meeting begins, so that opinions are not suppressed by the social dynamics in the group itself. It can be helpful if the leader of a group is the last person to speak, rather than the first.
A related bias in many presentations is the "focusing illusion." Here, a single idea, plan, or thesis is presented, perhaps with good rhetorical style, nice visuals, and strong supportive evidence. This leads to a strong persuasive effect. But if there is only one single idea, plan, or thesis, without presentation and fair discussion of alternatives, the audience will be unduly persuaded towards the single plan they hear about. In some extreme cases, what may seem like a reasoned, balanced, presentation may instead be more similar to a sales pitch or a political rally. To prevent the focusing illusion, it is important to allow time in presentations for debate, counterargument, and alternative ideas. Audience members should be strongly encouraged to think for themselves, to question, and to debate. Many audience members might be reluctant to do this, even if it is allowed, because they may feel it is rude or disrespectful to the presenter.
Another big problem in meetings has to do with the efficient use of time. Sometimes an hour is spent on a subject which could have taken just a few minutes of focused attention. In other areas of our lives, such as when we are listening to music, or watching a TV program, or reading a newspaper, we would rapidly divert our attention to something else if the activity was not useful or enjoyable. But in most meetings you are stuck there, with no capacity to change the activity.
I find that the "cost" of meetings is often not acknowledged. By cost, I do not mean the direct financial cost, which could often be zero (though not always, if there is rented space, catered food, or lost income). I mean the cost in terms of the other activities that could have been done instead. For example, if the meeting is attended by 24 psychotherapists, the total cost of a one hour meeting is 24 "person-hours" of psychotherapy time. The value of "24 person-hours" of psychotherapist time is equal to the treatment of 4 depressed patients with a course of CBT for 6 sessions each. We should acknowledge the costs, and keep these 4 untreated depressed patients in mind as we sit through the meeting.
Another cost of a meeting is of psychological well-being of the attendees. Many professional activities are psychologically neutral. Others could be beneficial, because they lead to better group cohesion or social connection. But others still could be demoralizing, depleting, or frustrating, if they have a negative dynamic. They could add to the stress of the day, since other work would have to be done later. If the meeting is psychologically depleting then it would be harder to keep up with other work.
But of course, some meetings are effective, enjoyable, educational, and socially beneficial for individuals and groups. They could help people and groups work more enjoyably and efficiently, could help solve problems in the work environment, and could help with creative planning for the future. We need to find ways to have more of these!
While I am not normally a fan of using questionnaires extensively with my patients, I have a simple suggestion for meeting management, based on some of the recent trends in psychotherapy research: obtain and measure feedback data from attendees. The absence of feedback can often give the impression that everyone feels ok with the process, and therefore there is no need to change. Such data would need to be qualified, since the data gathering process itself involves a bias. Reviewers of any service may be more likely to rate it more favourably, otherwise they might not have used the service in the first place. For example, if you gather outcome data from customers at a fast food restaurant, you may get very positive reviews. Such data should not be used as evidence that we should have more fast food restaurants in a community! But with this proviso in mind, here is a suggested questionnaire for meeting attendees, to be submitted anonymously after each session, or after each segment of a meeting. Each question could be rated on a scale with 0="not at all" and 5="very much":
1) I learned valuable new information in this meeting, which is likely to improve my work practices.
2) The presenter took too much time. *
3) Everyone's point of view was welcomed and respected.
4) Disagreement, counterarguments, and dissent were encouraged.
5) I got a fair chance to express my point of view.
6) The time spent at the meeting was worth the time, compared to my other tasks and duties which I missed due to attending the meeting.
7) The meeting was a good chance to connect with my coworkers.
8) The presenter was articulate, engaging, and organized.
9) I enjoyed this meeting.
10) I was bored during this meeting. *
11) The process of this meeting was fair and respectful.
12) The meeting made use of time efficiently.
13) I would like more such meetings in the future.
14) There were instances of disrespectful or objectionable content in the meeting. *
15) The presenter, and fellow attendees, could be heard clearly.
16) The presenter and/or visuals could be seen clearly by all.
17) The presentation contained a lot of unnecessary jargon or needless complex terminology.*
18) The meeting began and ended on time, and stuck to the schedule as announced in advance.
19) The cost of the meeting (in terms of money and time) was acknowledged.
20) Personal information was requested of me which felt uncomfortable to share in a work setting.*
The starred items should be reverse-scored. That is, for starred items, if you initially rate something as a "5" then it should be scored as "0." The score could be summed, with a maximum score of 100 (a "perfect meeting" !) and a minimum of 0 (the "worst possible").
I estimate an average score for most meetings in a relatively healthy organization would be about 60-70.
Aside from only looking at the group average scores, it may be very important to look at the range of scores from all individuals, to ensure that outlier data is not just "dissolved" into the group average.
Daniel Kahneman described psychological dynamics in meetings, such that those who contribute first or most vocally tend to bias the discussion excessively.
Quieter members of a group may have important contributions, but they are never heard.
A majority view can tend to prevail. Dissenting positions are often suppressed by peer pressure.
People can be afraid to express themselves, due to fear of consequences.
Many speakers or presenters in meetings are lecturing about information that is already well-known to most or all of the members, therefore this type of lecture is arguably a very inefficient use of everyone's time.
Suppression of dissent or counterargument is the most powerful and morally troubling bias in persuasion and group dynamics.
Overt bias in group dynamics and suppression of dissent can occur in overt ways, such as with an authoritarian meeting style. But there can be subtler mechanisms, such as when a presenter is charming, articulate, humourous, rhetorically skilled, and equipped with attractive visuals. Good food probably helps as well. We all enjoy such presentations, but it is important not to let our enjoyment cause us to shut down our critical thinking. Otherwise, a presentation can be more like a marketing campaign, a revival meeting, or a political rally.
One tactic to reduce this effect can be to ask members to offer their opinions or questions, anonymously if necessary, before the meeting begins, so that opinions are not suppressed by the social dynamics in the group itself. It can be helpful if the leader of a group is the last person to speak, rather than the first.
A related bias in many presentations is the "focusing illusion." Here, a single idea, plan, or thesis is presented, perhaps with good rhetorical style, nice visuals, and strong supportive evidence. This leads to a strong persuasive effect. But if there is only one single idea, plan, or thesis, without presentation and fair discussion of alternatives, the audience will be unduly persuaded towards the single plan they hear about. In some extreme cases, what may seem like a reasoned, balanced, presentation may instead be more similar to a sales pitch or a political rally. To prevent the focusing illusion, it is important to allow time in presentations for debate, counterargument, and alternative ideas. Audience members should be strongly encouraged to think for themselves, to question, and to debate. Many audience members might be reluctant to do this, even if it is allowed, because they may feel it is rude or disrespectful to the presenter.
Another big problem in meetings has to do with the efficient use of time. Sometimes an hour is spent on a subject which could have taken just a few minutes of focused attention. In other areas of our lives, such as when we are listening to music, or watching a TV program, or reading a newspaper, we would rapidly divert our attention to something else if the activity was not useful or enjoyable. But in most meetings you are stuck there, with no capacity to change the activity.
I find that the "cost" of meetings is often not acknowledged. By cost, I do not mean the direct financial cost, which could often be zero (though not always, if there is rented space, catered food, or lost income). I mean the cost in terms of the other activities that could have been done instead. For example, if the meeting is attended by 24 psychotherapists, the total cost of a one hour meeting is 24 "person-hours" of psychotherapy time. The value of "24 person-hours" of psychotherapist time is equal to the treatment of 4 depressed patients with a course of CBT for 6 sessions each. We should acknowledge the costs, and keep these 4 untreated depressed patients in mind as we sit through the meeting.
Another cost of a meeting is of psychological well-being of the attendees. Many professional activities are psychologically neutral. Others could be beneficial, because they lead to better group cohesion or social connection. But others still could be demoralizing, depleting, or frustrating, if they have a negative dynamic. They could add to the stress of the day, since other work would have to be done later. If the meeting is psychologically depleting then it would be harder to keep up with other work.
But of course, some meetings are effective, enjoyable, educational, and socially beneficial for individuals and groups. They could help people and groups work more enjoyably and efficiently, could help solve problems in the work environment, and could help with creative planning for the future. We need to find ways to have more of these!
While I am not normally a fan of using questionnaires extensively with my patients, I have a simple suggestion for meeting management, based on some of the recent trends in psychotherapy research: obtain and measure feedback data from attendees. The absence of feedback can often give the impression that everyone feels ok with the process, and therefore there is no need to change. Such data would need to be qualified, since the data gathering process itself involves a bias. Reviewers of any service may be more likely to rate it more favourably, otherwise they might not have used the service in the first place. For example, if you gather outcome data from customers at a fast food restaurant, you may get very positive reviews. Such data should not be used as evidence that we should have more fast food restaurants in a community! But with this proviso in mind, here is a suggested questionnaire for meeting attendees, to be submitted anonymously after each session, or after each segment of a meeting. Each question could be rated on a scale with 0="not at all" and 5="very much":
1) I learned valuable new information in this meeting, which is likely to improve my work practices.
2) The presenter took too much time. *
3) Everyone's point of view was welcomed and respected.
4) Disagreement, counterarguments, and dissent were encouraged.
5) I got a fair chance to express my point of view.
6) The time spent at the meeting was worth the time, compared to my other tasks and duties which I missed due to attending the meeting.
7) The meeting was a good chance to connect with my coworkers.
8) The presenter was articulate, engaging, and organized.
9) I enjoyed this meeting.
10) I was bored during this meeting. *
11) The process of this meeting was fair and respectful.
12) The meeting made use of time efficiently.
13) I would like more such meetings in the future.
14) There were instances of disrespectful or objectionable content in the meeting. *
15) The presenter, and fellow attendees, could be heard clearly.
16) The presenter and/or visuals could be seen clearly by all.
17) The presentation contained a lot of unnecessary jargon or needless complex terminology.*
18) The meeting began and ended on time, and stuck to the schedule as announced in advance.
19) The cost of the meeting (in terms of money and time) was acknowledged.
20) Personal information was requested of me which felt uncomfortable to share in a work setting.*
The starred items should be reverse-scored. That is, for starred items, if you initially rate something as a "5" then it should be scored as "0." The score could be summed, with a maximum score of 100 (a "perfect meeting" !) and a minimum of 0 (the "worst possible").
I estimate an average score for most meetings in a relatively healthy organization would be about 60-70.
Aside from only looking at the group average scores, it may be very important to look at the range of scores from all individuals, to ensure that outlier data is not just "dissolved" into the group average.