tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6886575137375451769.post5035706655152819732..comments2023-08-08T00:53:58.434-07:00Comments on Garth Kroeker: Are Psychiatrists Professionals, Friends, or Healers?GKhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14714377295981745087noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6886575137375451769.post-24354098255552635002009-06-20T11:08:00.173-07:002009-06-20T11:08:00.173-07:00I need a type of nonjudgemental, guiding, somewhat...I need a type of nonjudgemental, guiding, somewhat protecting paternalism from my psychiatrist. <br /><br />My mom met my pdoc one day and expressed her concern about how dependent I was on my psychiatrist. She thought I needed to become more independent and self-relient. I wondered about the same thing too.<br /><br />My pdoc replied that he encouraged a type of "maternal dependence" the type that allows a person to feel safe and take chances, and grow, in a safe environment.<br /><br />I like that. I like that there is always at least one safe place for me to just "be" no matter how I am feeling. I appreciate that there is always at least one person who will continue to benevolently guide me and support my growth.<br /><br />I believe this has been, and continues to be one of the most important factors in my struggle towards being mentally well. It is so therapeutic for me and continues to be what helps me both heal, and keep trying even if nothing else seems to consistently help me.<br /><br />Just one more thing for me: If I did not believe my psychiatrist actually liked/enjoyed my company...I could not open up as much as I do. I feel safe to trust and express myself because there is an element of "friendship in our relationship. I recognize this friendship has a few more boundaries than other friendships...but I need someone to really care for me in order for me to let them in.<br />...LAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6886575137375451769.post-9838039535715579672009-06-18T08:20:16.882-07:002009-06-18T08:20:16.882-07:001. I really liked that piece too. But maybe it hin...1. I really liked that piece too. But maybe it hints at why I shouldn't be a psychiatrist.<br /><br />2. Thanks for clearing up the idea of object relations. I've never read a clear coherent explanation of it and always thought it was some kind of voodoo.<br /><br />3. I really disliked the paternalism that my last shrink took toward me. I kept yelling at him to quit trying to save me and just *help* me. It never got through. He got mad at me for not "accepting" his paternalism. I really am against it in any doctor-patient relations. But I do know that some kinds of patients want it. I usually try to refer them to someone else.mysadalteregohttp://myalterego.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com